Everybody has a limit. You can't walk through a door that isn't open. Probably you propose to someone, but they say NO, don't feel bad but seek another option. I used to think that God has a particular person for us to marry. How little my knowledge was then! Because we were told if you can't find your rib, forget about it. I was so worried about the ideology behind the rib until I discovered that there's something so greater than finding a spouse, yet, God doesn't choose it for you. It's your salvation – yet God doesn't influence it. He doesn't decide that you'll be saved tomorrow or next tomorrow, He only gives you chances to be saved. You can decide to agree with Him or not. But I urge you to follow God's leading for your life, it works for me, and I'm living proof of that.
I have never seen God forcing or deciding salvation for people. He waits patiently for you to decide and to grow in the knowledge of Him regarding what you want for your life. He's the best thing that can ever happen to you! Fast-forwarding to later also understands that someone telling you NO in a relationship gives you another option to search thoroughly for a better person yet suitable for you.
God wants you to decide on your spouse, but He wants to guide you while choosing. Do you understand the concept now? God knows who you want for your life better than you. He sees beyond your excitement and feelings to what this person can make happen for you.
Remember, the story of Sampson. Do you think God was behind him fastening with that woman called Delilah as a wife? I don't think so! God will not guide you to pick someone that'll destroy you. Never will He do that! God has given you a will; which is so good and bad at the same time. God gives to you the same thing that He possesses – which is the will. You can decide to use your will, even against the one that gave you.
Learn to understand the extent someone can go with you during any relationship. Don't force the person to proceed further if they can't continue anymore. The strength of a man is proportionate to what he can do next. People know where their hearts are even when they're with you, always allow them to make the choice that can serve you the stress and pain.
Everybody has limitations, both mentally and emotionally. Occasionally, we identify them, but we feel it would be better not to accept them.
Expectations decide disappointment. Many times, you expect too much from a relationship that isn't even going to work. And then you sit back and cry, expecting your life to come back to normal, but it's always difficult at that point. Don't be too uncertain to accept disappointment and frustration. It's normal, even presidents of countries do get frustrated at some point in their lives. Play around frustration to later get what you want, but never settle for it.
Being frustrated in a relationship shouldn't make you scared of loving and turning away from who people usually perceive you to be. Always maintain your sanity, self-respect, self-love, even when things don't work out as expected.
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