Marriage Is Bigger Than the Two People in It.

🔖Marriage Is Bigger Than the Two People in It.

If marriage itself is to be honored and esteemed even above the people involved in it, what does that mean in practical terms?

For purposes of illustration, it may help to compare marriage to working at a job. Let’s imagine that you and I go to work for the same company.

The company is a form of institution, and we have joined that institution by accepting employment there. We have committed ourselves to the institution.

Suppose we end up working side by side at adjacent desks. We build a good working relationship and get along fine for a while.

Then, one day we have a sharp disagreement over something and exchange heated words.

We both decide that we are not talking to each other anymore. What happens next? Do we quit our jobs simply because we had a falling out? I hope not. (Some people quit over this kind of thing, but it is almost always a sign of immaturity).

But, instead, we both go home, still angry and at odds, but the next day there we are again, back at our desks.

Why?

Because we are committed to the institution more than we are to the people in the institution.

A week passes, and even though we still are not talking, there we are, continuing to work side by side.

There may be a conflict between us, but we are both still committed to the institution.

Marriage is bigger than anyone who gets into it (know this and know peace).

It's an institution where regardless of anything experienced you're bound not to be out.

The fact that marriage is bigger than you entails that your feelings, wish and thoughts tend to be diminished or nothing after marriage; except thoughts to improve it only.

Your feelings can only count now that you're not married; you have the choice to choose what to do without being much accountable.

But after you go into marriage your decision doesn't count anymore regarding stepping out of it.

If marriage realizes your feelings, a day will come when you'll choose yourself over marriage.

I know we've been told if the marriage doesn't favor us we should simply adjust and leave it (divorce); making us attend to our happiness first even when it's detrimental.

When once you're married you're LOCKED to whoever you got married to.

It's important you know this on time before you say “I DO”...

But what were you doing in your pursuit of marriage before you got married?

Were you eating sharwama?

...While forgetting to make the right choice that'll influence your entire life for better or for worse.

If everyone hopes to have all they want in marriage, no one may remain in it.

That's why it's important to know yourself first before you hop into marriage.

Marriage may not favor those that don't know themselves (know this and know peace).

You're the first point of marriage before getting yourself join to another person in marriage.

You're the first POINT OF MARRIAGE.